I see so much emphasis lately on outward beauty amongst young Christian women. Girls are always saying to each other, “Hey, beautiful!” or “You’re gorgeous,” and “God thinks you’re beautiful!” This concerns me.
1 Samuel 16:7 says,
“But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart.”
Outward beauty isn’t eternal. God is concerned about your heart, not how pretty you are. In fact, I’d be so bold as to say that God doesn’t sit up in heaven thinking about how beautiful you are outwardly. So why tell girls that he thinks they’re beautiful? Why tell them how pretty they are over and over? Why continuously bring their attention to their outward appearance? Our identity in Christ has nothing to do with how pretty we look. If we want to give girls a confidence boost that will last, remind them that God loves them. Remind them that God is pleased with a woman’s heart that is adorned “with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious” (1 Peter 3:4). Tell them that true beauty is to be a living reflection of Christ.
I understand that a lot of girls (I am in this category) struggle from time to time – sometimes very often – with the way they look. But isn’t that just showing a lack of confidence in who we are in Christ? Don’t place your confidence in something that isn’t eternal – and outward beauty is not eternal. Showering an insecure girl with compliments on how she looks isn’t ultimately going to give her confidence that lasts.
Please don’t get me wrong – it’s not wrong to tell a girl she’s pretty, lovely, beautiful, gorgeous, etc.. It’s not wrong as girls to wear pretty clothes, do our hair, or even wear makeup. However, it is wrong to place our confidence in the way we look. We shouldn’t bring so much attention to ourselves and our appearances. It isn’t right to place such value on something that is not eternal.
I know it’s a popular verse; one that you’ve heard over and over, and maybe have grown tired of… But don’t underestimate the truth in its words.